Webster’s definition of a quality is: a peculiar and essential character; an inherent feature; or a degree of excellence.
Jeremiah 17:9 “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked; who can know it?”
Romans 3:23 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.”
How exciting to think that you can be a part of helping your children reach a degree of excellence. As we can see from the above verses, it is not natural for people to have good behavior. It is up to parents to mold their child’s character. How, in a world that is becoming less and less Christ-like, can parents do this? With God all things are possible, but parents must do their part.
Parents need a plan to instill good, godly qualities in their children. Hopefully, you have done your time study and have written down people in your life who are on your team and those who may be teaching things that do not go along with God’s Word. If not, I highly suggest that you do it. It will help you become more aware of who is influencing your children and what their influence is.
Any good teacher has a lesson plan. They know what they want to teach and they have a plan to do it. Remember in Deuteronomy 6:7 that you are to teach your children what God has command you. Below are steps to get you started:
*Write down qualities that you would like to see instilled in your children such as honesty, kindness, generosity, responsibility, etc. The best place to find these qualities is in the Bible. It is very important that you make an actual list. When you have a list, you are more aware to look for examples.
*Find verses that go along with a specific trait that you want your children to have. Memorize those verses together. You can even make up a little tune and start singing it if they are doing the opposite of what you are trying to teach them. If they are being mean to a sibling or a friend, you can start singing, “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ has forgiven you.” (Ephesians 4:32)
*Read stories from the Bible and other books that talk about the behavior you would like your children to have.
*Be on the lookout for people displaying the quality and bring it to their attention. Qualities are abstract and need concrete examples for your children to understand them. If someone holds the door open as you enter a store, tell the person thank you and then say to your children, “That person was being kind and thoughtful. God loves it when we think of others.” Also, take notice when your children do what is right and compliment them, “It was very thoughtful that you stopped and waited for your brother.”
*Be their example. You cannot pass to your children what you do not have. People learn more from sight than they do from words. Your actions need to match what you say. If you yell or have an attitude, how can you expect your children to be kind and tenderhearted?
*Pray for one another and ask God to help each one of you where you are struggling.
In future blogs, I will go over some of these steps in more detail. Today, pick a quality and start teaching it to your children.
By: Linda Svacha 🙂