First, I want to say that this blog is not to put down the mothers who work for whatever reason. The purpose of this blog is to give the women who choose and are able to stay home to raise their children encouragement and to let them know that their job is of GREAT worth.
We live in a society where many people think more is better and where what you do for a living defines who you are. Because of that, women frequently go to work to buy the extras or so they can tell others, “Look at what I do.” The children are usually the ones who suffer. Often, women who want to make their career being a wife and mother are made to feel dumb, like homemaking is not rewarding, or that they are being taken advantage of. This could be further from the truth.
There are many wonderful reasons why it is good when a mother chooses to stay home. She is able to talk, teach, and train her children in the way they should go. Because she is with them throughout the day, she is able to take advantage of the teachable moments that come along and know that the values that she and her husband desire to be passed down to their children are being taught. She has more control over the influences that come into her children’s lives, especially in the formative years. When your children are being past to and fro, consistency with your belief & discipline systems become very hard to maintain.
Another advantage is that her children have a constant attachment where they can go when they need wisdom or are in trouble. Research has shown that children who have good attachment bonds are more emotional & socially stable and can have healthier brain connectors. One of the reasons for this is that she has the time to train her children in good social skills and when they are struggling with their feelings, she is able to walk them through what to do with their emotions. (Note: If you do not know how to teach your children to handle their emotions, my book has many ideas what to do and say for a number of emotions. Building Strong Families also offers free classes concerning emotions and what to do with them.)
It can be very stressful for the whole family when women who work try to juggle or split household chores, homework, sick children, etc. Being a stay-at-home mom, allows more rest for everyone. Not having to juggle everything after a long day of work allows for more relaxation and family time. Instead of doing chores, the family can spend time relaxing, playing, and ministering together.
Our children need more adults who are willing and have the time to talk, teach, and train them in the way they should go. Moms, your job can be overwhelming and unappreciated at times, but it does not go unnoticed. The time and energy you invest in your children will bring back great dividends to our society as a whole. God uses the family as the foundation that holds life together. Keep up the good work! Your job is so important!!!! Do not let anyone make you feel that what you do is any less important than what they do. May God bless you for what you do.
By: Linda Svacha 🙂