One of Satan’s plots is to get people’s eyes off of people and onto things. God’s plan to pass His legacy to the next generation is to have parents talk and teach His commands to their children 24/7. Satan had to come up with ways to stop people from communicating. I believe that attraction to things, two parents working, and television have been some of his greatest tools.
Before WWII, most dads went to work while the moms stayed at home to raise the family. At least one parent was at home when their children needed advice and guidance. People were happy with the basics of life. Television was just coming around; so much time was still spent interacting with the family.
When many men went away to war, women filled their spots in the workforce. When the men came back, lots of women chose to stay working. Personally, I believe that being a stay-at-home mom is one of the hardest jobs there is, yet one of the most rewarding. Many women enjoyed not having to “deal” with the kids all day and loved getting money for their work. Families liked the extra money and the things that it could buy. People could have so much more than “just” a home, food, and a decent vehicle. Now, people could have lots of extra toys like boats, pools, extravagant vacations, and the new televisions that were coming out. People started wanting bigger houses and newer cars. They could now afford to get their children in all kinds of extracurricular activities like dancing, gymnastics, and hockey (more time to separate the family). Television did not help with the pull of materialism as commercials showed people that there was more out there that they could have. The economy was booming, money was to be made, and life “was good.” Was it really good or were we setting the family up to fall apart?
Television started to become much more popular. People began to spend hours watching television instead of talking. Television, instead of parents and other adults began talking and influencing the next generation. Do you really want your children becoming like those on TV? Today, the average American spends approximately 28 hours a week watching television. Can you imagine if families were spending that time talking about life and the issues of today? Both parents were working to pay for all the “things” that money could buy. Parents showered the children with “things.” Parents were so caught up in buying their children things and giving them all their hearts desired that it left no one around for the children to connect to. Parents were busy working, shopping, and running their family from this activity to that activity. No time was left for children to stay connected to their parents when they needed their parents the most (when the frontal lobe where abstract thinking takes place). I suggest if you have not yet read my blog on brain development, you would do so now https://livingforhimllc.wordpress.com/?s=brain+development . Between the ages of twelve to twenty-four is when youth need adult guidance the most, yet by that age they are so disconnect from adults they turn to friends who are no better off to help them sort though the issues of life.
Did all those “things” that money had to buy bring happiness? Doesn’t look like it to me. Suicide has almost tripled since the 1960’s for youth ages 15-24. According to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, suicide is the third leading cause of death for young people from 15-24, behind accidents and homicide. In Macomb, Oakland and Wayne counties, nearly 30 people younger than 18 have committed suicide since the beginning of 2012 (www.wzzm13.com).
I believe it is time that we reconnect with our youth! Let’s turn off the television with all its garbage and spend time once again teaching, talking, training, and playing with our children. Let’s downsize if necessary so that there is a parent there to talk to their children about the many issues they will face as a teenager and a young adult. Rather than buy your children “things,” take them out into the community to be there for those in need. Bake banana bread with your children and take it over to welcome the new neighbor in town. Go bring lunch to a shut-in. Nothing brings more joy to an elderly person than children. Give your children purpose as they watch lives touched by their generosity. Sit down and talk to your children about life. Help them see the reality of young dating, drinking parties, and premarital sex. Let’s do something to save our younger generation.
You don’t know what to say to your children or how to stay connected? The book I’ve written, Pass God’s Legacy to Your Children: One Talk at a Time, can help you with that. It helps you understand how to stay attached to your children through the turbulent years and is filled with actual talks about every subject you can think of. The book teaches you how to start teaching your children what to do with their emotions when they are very young. To order your signed copy today, go to www.livingforhimllc.us
I also teach free classes through Building Strong Families, Inc. that help parents reconnect and/or stay connected to their children. To find out more information about the classes offered, go to www.buildingstrongfamilies.us
Let’s start today to be there for and make a difference in our young people lives!! They are our future.
Hebrews 13:5 let your conduct be without covetousness; be content with such things as you have. For He Himself has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”