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The Table Acronym

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  • T ~ talking-Statistics have shown that a family who eats and spends time together around the table lowers their children’s chances of getting into trouble and making poor choices. There is nothing better than sharing life with those you love around the kitchen table. Problems have been solved and many victories have been celebrated there. The memories created will last a lifetime.

~Deuteronomy 6:7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up.

  • A ~ activities-Bonding is happening when you do things together. What a blessing to watch the activities around the table: birthday celebrations, countless meals, card making for caroling and other special occasions, games won & lost, inventions, creations made with Lego’s and we do not want to forget the endless hours of homework (well, maybe not so much bonding with that one, lol).

~I Corinthians 10:31  Therefore, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.

  • B ~ Bible studies-Some of my greatest joys have been opening the Bible with others to learn and grow together in our walks with the Lord. Hearing the powerful testimonies of what God is doing in and through each of us has been such an encouragement. His word sure is alive, powerful, and transforming!! It is so humbling going with others into the throne room of God to seek His wisdom and will.

~Matthew 18:20 For where two or three are gathered together in My name, I am there in the midst of them.

  • L ~ laughter-Hearing funny stories with belly laughter around the table is the best. There is nothing like a good friend who always has a story to tell that will get you laughing.

~Proverbs 17:22 A merry heart does good, like medicine, but a broken spirit dries the bones.

  • E ~ eternity-Our kitchen table has been one of our greatest investments. The talking together, activities shared, opening of the Bible, and the belly laughs have all in one way or another have been used with the hopes of seeing many around the eternal table. Spending eternity with our Lord and those we have done life with is something I and those found in Christ look forward to.

~Revelations 19:9 Then he said to me, “Write: ‘Blessed are those who are called to the marriage supper of the Lamb!’”

I love and am so thankful for my kitchen table. So many wonderful memories have been made there and I look forward to the numerous ones to come. Is your kitchen table a special place?

Satan’s Plot to Destroy the Family ~ Part V ~ “Men Should Not Be Head of Household”

The problem is not that God appointed man to be the head of the household; the problem is what man has done with his role of being husband and father. God created mankind to glorify and have fellowship with Him. God created the earth and prepared it so people would have everything they needed to survive and enjoy their fellowship with God.  God gave Adam the responsibility to have dominion over His creation and made him a helper. They were to become one flesh with the same goals. Together, they were to have children and raise them to glorify God. The problem started when they took their eyes off of glorifying God and sought their own gain. Whenever man takes his eyes off of glorifying God and makes it about him, there is trouble.

I once heard an example worth sharing. God took woman from man’s side. He did not take her from his head to rule over him or from his feet to be his doormat. God took woman from man’s side so they can walk side by side in what God has called them to do. Marriage is to be a picture of the relationship between Christ and His church. Ephesians 5:25-32 tells husbands that they are to love their wives as Christ loved the church. Christ gave His life so He could present His bride without spot or wrinkle. His life on earth was always sacrificial. His love is so great for us that we willingly trust and submit to His leadership. The same is to hold true with the husband. He is to love and sacrifice for his wife and family so that he is able to present them to the Lord holy and without blemish. When the husband places his wife and family above himself, the wife is able to lovingly submit to his leadership because she knows that he has her best interest at heart.

Many men took their leadership and turned it into a power trip. They took Ephesians 5:22-24 out of content using those verses for their own gain instead of seeing that the wife is to submit to their love and sacrifice. Men sought to use women for their own gain and began to treat them like slaves instead of partners. It is hard for a woman to submit when she is being treated like dirt instead of an equal. Women became tired of being treated like slaves and doormats causing them to rebel. Instead of going back to God’s original design where man loved and sacrificed for his family and the wife submitted to his loving leadership, women wanted no part of allowing men to lead. They could do it on their own. The pendulum swung in the other direction.

Many women wanted to take the leadership role and that is what they did. The sad thing is now many young men have no desire to lead and guide their families. Now, many men use women to satisfy their lustful desires with no thought of commitment and responsibility to their families. Why marry a woman when you can use her? If you’re not married and the girl you’re with becomes pregnant, ditch mom and baby and move on to another you can use without commitment or expect hard working people to support your child and its mother. The women and children are usually the ones who suffer most. There are over ten million single family homes in the United States and over one million two hundred thousand babies being murdered every year through abortion. Will the real man please stand up and take on the responsibility of loving, protecting, and taking care of your family? The root is not that the economy is bad; the root is that men need to love and be responsible for their own wife and family.

We need men who will not look at women as sex objects, but will realize that women are a treasure given by God to walk alongside of them to raise a family that will glorify God and/or be used to further His kingdom. We need young men to spend their time becoming all that God created them to be instead of spending their time satisfying self. We need young men who will wait to date until they are ready to leave home and pursue God’s calling, men who will wait until God brings the right person in their lives who will be their helpmate for life. Let us go back to God’s design and have the happy homes that God intended us to have.

Satan’s Plot to Destroy the Family ~ Part IV ~ Materialism

One of Satan’s plots is to get people’s eyes off of people and onto things. God’s plan to pass His legacy to the next generation is to have parents talk and teach His commands to their children 24/7. Satan had to come up with ways to stop people from communicating. I believe that attraction to things, two parents working, and television have been some of his greatest tools.

Before WWII, most dads went to work while the moms stayed at home to raise the family. At least one parent was at home when their children needed advice and guidance. People were happy with the basics of life. Television was just coming around; so much time was still spent interacting with the family.

When many men went away to war, women filled their spots in the workforce. When the men came back, lots of women chose to stay working. Personally, I believe that being a stay-at-home mom is one of the hardest jobs there is, yet one of the most rewarding. Many women enjoyed not having to “deal” with the kids all day and loved getting money for their work. Families liked the extra money and the things that it could buy. People could have so much more than “just” a home, food, and a decent vehicle. Now, people could have lots of extra toys like boats, pools, extravagant vacations, and the new televisions that were coming out. People started wanting bigger houses and newer cars. They could now afford to get their children in all kinds of extracurricular activities like dancing, gymnastics, and hockey (more time to separate the family).  Television did not help with the pull of materialism as commercials showed people that there was more out there that they could have. The economy was booming, money was to be made, and life “was good.” Was it really good or were we setting the family up to fall apart?

Television started to become much more popular. People began to spend hours watching television instead of talking. Television, instead of parents and other adults began talking and influencing the next generation. Do you really want your children becoming like those on TV? Today, the average American spends approximately 28 hours a week watching television. Can you imagine if families were spending that time talking about life and the issues of today?  Both parents were working to pay for all the “things” that money could buy. Parents showered the children with “things.” Parents were so caught up in buying their children things and giving them all their hearts desired that it left no one around for the children to connect to. Parents were busy working, shopping, and running their family from this activity to that activity. No time was left for children to stay connected to their parents when they needed their parents the most (when the frontal lobe where abstract thinking takes place). I suggest if you have not yet read my blog on brain development, you would do so now https://livingforhimllc.wordpress.com/?s=brain+development . Between the ages of twelve to twenty-four is when youth need adult guidance the most, yet by that age they are so disconnect from adults they turn to friends who are no better off to help them sort though the issues of life.

Did all those “things” that money had to buy bring happiness? Doesn’t look like it to me. Suicide has almost tripled since the 1960’s for youth ages 15-24. According to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, suicide is the third leading cause of death for young people from 15-24, behind accidents and homicide. In Macomb, Oakland and Wayne counties, nearly 30 people younger than 18 have committed suicide since the beginning of 2012 (www.wzzm13.com).

I believe it is time that we reconnect with our youth! Let’s turn off the television with all its garbage and spend time once again teaching, talking, training, and playing with our children. Let’s downsize if necessary so that there is a parent there to talk to their children about the many issues they will face as a teenager and a young adult. Rather than buy your children “things,” take them out into the community to be there for those in need. Bake banana bread with your children and take it over to welcome the new neighbor in town. Go bring lunch to a shut-in. Nothing brings more joy to an elderly person than children. Give your children purpose as they watch lives touched by their generosity. Sit down and talk to your children about life. Help them see the reality of young dating, drinking parties, and premarital sex. Let’s do something to save our younger generation.

You don’t know what to say to your children or how to stay connected? The book I’ve written, Pass God’s Legacy to Your Children: One Talk at a Time, can help you with that. It helps you understand how to stay attached to your children through the turbulent years and is filled with actual talks about every subject you can think of. The book teaches you how to start teaching your children what to do with their emotions when they are very young. To order your signed copy today, go to www.livingforhimllc.us

I also teach free classes through Building Strong Families, Inc. that help parents reconnect and/or stay connected to their children. To find out more information about the classes offered, go to www.buildingstrongfamilies.us

Let’s start today to be there for and make a difference in our young people lives!! They are our future.

Hebrews 13:5 let your conduct be without covetousness; be content with such things as you have. For He Himself has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”

Satan’s Plot to Destroy the Family

God created man to have fellowship with Him. Satan’s goal is to destroy that fellowship and everything that God said was good. When God was finished creating the earth and everything in it, He saw that it was very good. God placed man in the Garden of Eden to tend and keep it. God saw it was not good that man was alone so He took a rib from Adam and created Eve to be Adam’s helper. They were to become one flesh. Together they were to be fruitful and multiply, fill the earth and subdue it, and they were to have dominion over the fish, birds, and every living thing that moves on the earth. God had a perfect design. Life was good and fellowship with God was sweet.

Satan did not like what God had done and set out to destroy. Satan deceived Adam and Eve to go against God. What happened after that was not good. At that moment, death, pain, sorrow, and tears entered the world. Satan continues to draw people away from God and an abundant life using lies and deception.

Satan knows how powerful the family unit can be and it is his goal to destroy it. God created man and woman to have fellowship with Him and as the means to carry out His plan of procreation. God also uses the husband/wife relationship to pass His legacy down to the next generation. When the family unit is run God’s way, it works. When a man takes on the responsibility to love, care for, and nurture his family, life is good. He cannot do that all on his own so God designed a helpmate to help him with that task. Selflessly, they are to come together with the same goals so the family can be all God created them to be.

The following are some ways that Satan has deceived people in order to destroy the family:

  • Tear apart God’s design for authority in the family
    • God gave man the responsibility to love, care for, and nurture his family. Man was to sacrifice his wants and desires to benefit the family. He was to lead his family in a way that would bring honor and glory to God’s name. His home was to be a safe haven where love and sacrifice abounded. Satan deceived man to take his position of authority and use it for his gain instead taking care of his family. As a result, women were stepped on and torn down. When they got tired of being treated like dirt, they rebelled. I believe the feminist movement came out of being mistreated by men. Man being the head of the household was/is not the problem; the problem was/is man’s abuse of his position. We need men who will step up to the plate and take seriously that it is their job to provide for, love, and take care of their families.
    • God designed for parents to train and teach their children about Him and His commands. Satan has done everything in his power to undermine the authority of parents. Satan has gotten our country in a place where parents are too busy (two parents working, sports, TV, etc) to talk, teach, and train their children and has replaced them with “things” that are talking, teaching, and training children to do and be everything that goes against God. Children are being deceived left and right. Parents are trying to stop the rebellion by just controlling the behavior. Parents need to get back to talking, teaching, and training their children.
  • Make the sexual union just an activity  
    • God designed sex as a way to keep His creation going.  In Genesis Chapter Two, God created man male and female, blessed them, and instructed them to be fruitful and multiply, fill the earth and subdue it. A male and a male or a female and a female cannot multiply. God’s ideal is that a man and woman come together in love and that love produces children. Those children are a part of each of them and together they are to raise them to love and honor the Lord.
    • The “Free love” movement started in the 1960’s and has played a huge part in breaking down the incredible bond that a one-and-only relationship can have. We see this movement has caused men to be irresponsible when it comes to raising their own children. It has caused men to look at women as sex objects instead of a treasure to be gotten and kept. Women have been used and tossed away like dirty rags.
    • Sex is a wonderful, powerful gift from God. A pure, intimate relationship is filled with love, joy, and great satisfaction. It is a safe place where two people become so entwined that nothing can tear them apart. God designed sex to be part of the way a man and women become one flesh physically, emotionally, and spiritually. God tells us in Hebrews 13:4 that the marriage bed is honorable and undefiled. Sex outside of the marriage bed will be judged.
  • Allow others to take over the responsibilities that were given to the parents

I believe it is very important to have people walk alongside the family to help pass along good values and ethics. The problem is when you have too many people stepping in, your children end up being taught things that go against what you are trying to teach them and confusion sets in.

For example:

  • Children go to schools where not only is God not welcome, children are often taught things that go against God’s ways and commands. Many schools undermine the parents.
  • Often, parents expect the church to be the ones to be responsible to pass God’s legacy to the next generation. The church has your children a couple hours a week. Deuteronomy Chapter Six is clear that it is the parents’ job to pass God’s legacy to their children 24/7. We see with 80% of kids leaving the church after youth group that we need parents who will teach and talk about God everyday in their homes.
  • Children are having children and expecting the grandparents to take on the responsibility that is meant for the parents.
  • Boys are getting girls pregnant and walking away from their responsibilities and expecting the government to take on what they should be doing.

As Christians, we need to wake up and fight against the attacks of Satan. Where do we start? What can we do? I will discuss in future blogs what can be done to strengthen the family once again. Feel free to share other ways that you feel Satan is attacking the family.